Jehovah’s Witness Issues

FRACTURED FAMILIES
A CRISIS IN YOUR HOME
 
� by Lorri MacGregor
MacGregor Ministries, Canada)

This is written for those seeking information regarding life with a Jehovah’s Witness believer, child custody cases, separation agreements, divorce proceedings and elderly family members involved with the Jehovah’s Witnesses.(NOTE: Jehovah’s Witnesses aren’t the only religious/spiritual group to do similar things to those shown above. The principles of dealing with the issues should be the same with other cults too.)

USEFUL BACKGROUND INFORMATION

You may no longer recognise the person you thought you knew. This person has been caught up in a cult group which does all their thinking for them. They cannot react to normal reasoning processes for several reasons, no matter how you try and talk with them. They cannot be reasoned with, and are no longer open to logic. The cult group’s” reasoning” takes precedence in all matters in their life.The member has been very successfully mind-controlled. They have given over control of every area of their life to “elders” of this group, believing this is what God (Jehovah) would have them do.

IN A MARRIAGE SITUATION

If the marriage has not broken down too far, and you would like to bring the marriage back to where it was before the involvement with the Jehovah’s Witness, there are ways of reaching them in some cases, not all.Some have made up their minds they want the marriage ended and are using this difference in religion as an excuse to get out. To try and save the marriage you must be prepared to help them. This takes commitment on your part. Patience is necessary.

First, as they were drawn into this group they were very subtly told that there would be “opposition” to their involvement with the Society from friends and family members. This is presented as being “Satanic” opposition to them serving Jehovah. Any negative reaction by you proves the cult right in their minds.

They now believe that all opposition to them is from “Satan” and his evil world. (This means you!) They feel proud to be “suffering for righteousness sake”. They feel justified in putting you out of their life if you oppose their “truth”, or in any way interfere with their meeting attendance and “preaching” work.

They believe that the Watchtower Society is the only source of truth in the world today, and any criticism of the Society is criticism of Jehovah God himself.

Any printed materials exposing the organisation etc. are considered by them to be “pornographic”, from “apostates” and evil people controlled by Satan.

Their first strategy will be to try and win you over to become a J.W. This will be done by introductions to other Witnesses in a friendly manner, at your home or theirs, and encouragement by them to have you join in a “Bible study” and attend some of their meetings. If done, the person will be “love bombed” by other Witnesses to make you feel comfortable and want to be part of their group.

Secondly, if unsuccessful in winning you over to become a J.W., they will try to get you to tolerate your mate’s J.W. involvement, including any children at home. As long as you don’t interfere in any way with your mate’s and children’s J.W. activities, your mate will remain with you. They always hope you can be brought around at a later date. Your non-interference is no problem to them.

Thirdly, if there is no cooperation in the above, your home life may become so unpleasant you will finally leave, perhaps even becoming involved with someone else. J.W.’s then misapply 1 Corinthians 7:15, “But if the unbelieving one proceeds to depart, let him depart;” They feel very self-righteous at this point.

This would give them grounds for a divorce, and leave them free to remarry a J.W. mate. Don’t fall into this trap of “leaving”, if you want to be part of your children’s future, or if you must leave, seek legal counsel regarding your children first.

However, if you steadfastly refuse to move out or become involved with someone else, and are interfering in their attendance at meetings, you may find yourself alone in many cases. The congregation will assist the “persecuted” J.W. mate to leave you.

If children are involved they will feel they must take the children out of the home. If they don’t, they themselves personally, including their kids, will lose their lives and be destroyed when “Armageddon” comes. In their minds, unless they leave the home situation they would have no hope for any future life, and Jehovah God would destroy them all. They are living under tremendous fear. They believe “Armageddon” could come very soon.

We have heard of numerous cases where the non-J.W. mate arrives home to find an empty house, with mate, children, furniture and even pets missing. The bank account may be empty as well. Your children may be hidden with a J.W. family in another location, if they feel you may come after them. Your J.W. mate (or ex-mate) will desperately try and get custody of the children.

Be prepared for the worst. Many have faced false charges difficult to defend. They want to prove you “unfit” as a parent. You will need strong character witnesses who have observed you with your own children. At the very least, J.W.’s will seek joint custody with the equal right to teach the children their religion. At their disposal will be their own legal experts and your mate and children will be coached in what to say in court. Lack of preparation on your part or your lawyers will lose you your children! Learn their tactics!

They will have no hesitation about lying, even under oath. They have a doctrine called “Justified Lying”, teaching that you only have to tell the truth to those “who are entitled to it”.

The courts, legal system, family care workers, the ex-mates, etc., because of their resistance to, or not being part of “Jehovah’s” organisation, do not deserve to know the truth. In Jehovah’s Witness thinking, they are of Satan and it’s okay to lie to him or his people to protect “Jehovah” and his organisation on earth (The Watchtower Society). Be prepared for this. It will happen.

All sorts of things will be told to the children to scare them away from any involvement with “evil” you. They will be coached on what to say about you in court. Even if the courts forbid religious things being taught to the kids during visitation times, the children will be instructed to “hate” you because you are opposing and are not part of God’s organisation.

J.W. CHILDREN & OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS

For those who have children or other family members involved and living in your home, much of the above applies to them also.If they are living at home you will have to be very careful in how you approach the subject of their involvement with the Jehovah’s Witnesses. Any negative criticism of the “organisation” by you will prompt the elders to encourage the child to leave home if they are old enough. Often they will be moved into a strong JW family’s home until they can get a job and be self-supporting.

Many relationships are broken in this way. Don’t drive your child out of your home. Find other ways to deal with his J.W. involvement. Once they are out of your home they will be instructed to have no further contact with you.

PARENTS AND THE ELDERLY

If parents or the elderly get caught up, do some research and understand the problems before jumping in too quickly. Br>
Aging parents living on their own are especially vulnerable. Jehovah’s Witnesses will make friends with them during their door to door visitations.Lonely elders usually welcome J.W.’s. Friendships develop over the visits. Jehovah’s Witnesses are always looking for places for their full-time “pioneers” to live.

Often these J.W.’s begin by doing odd jobs for the elderly. Later, they suggest they “move in” and care for the elderly in exchange for room and board. If the elderly parent does not have them move in, they still continue their influence in their lives.

They will lavish lots of attention on the lonely elderly one, patiently studying with them, and taking them out to meetings and the service, and to social gatherings. The idea is planted that they care more for the elderly one than his/her own family does. Often the family is some distance away and has no idea what is going on.

Once they solidly “convert” the elderly one, the idea is subtly presented, “Wouldn’t it be nice to leave your estate to God’s work? After all, we are your family now, and why have your estate go to the worldly ones (your family)? They’ll just die at Armageddon anyway, and it will be wasted. Wouldn’t Jehovah be pleased if your estate furthered the preaching work?”

Many elderly people have signed over their homes and other assets completely to the Society. The Society makes sure it is all done very legally, with a lawyer present to prove they are of sound mind when any paper work is done.

It is almost impossible to have a court overturn these documents at a later date. These proceedings are done sometimes years before their demise.

Often a power of attorney enables them to empty all bank accounts and dispose of assets before the death of the elderly one. By the time the funeral comes, it is often a “done deed”.

Usually family members find out after the funeral that all is gone from Mum or Dad’s estates. Even personal mementos, photographs, and keepsakes of little value etc. are withheld from the grieving families by the Society.

Often the family is locked out of the family home when they arrive. In extreme cases, the family is not notified until days or weeks after the funeral or the death.

If you have parents in a vulnerable position be sure to check out the parents wishes and wills, etc., while there is still time and they are of sound mind. If you find out there has already been involvement with the Jehovah’s Witnesses, you may be able to make changes before it’s too late.

Get professional legal advise immediately If possible, have their assets safeguarded in some way. Secure a Power of Attorney yourself and make sure your parent’s banks etc., are advised to notify you of anything suspicious.

HOW TO PROCEED

You will need not only physical strength and legal assistance to deal with the Jehovah’s Witnesses and their tactics, but you will need spiritual help to see you through.Contact your Pastor and see if he/she can help, or write us for further help in this area. We may be able to refer you to personal contacts in your area.

You and your legal counsel must understand what you are dealing with. J.W.’s may bring in their legal experts from the “Head Office”. In any case your mate’s lawyer will be getting instructions from there. If necessary they will pay the legal bills for your mate (only after their personal finances and free government assistance are gone). Expect many delays and outrageous charges. These proceedings are deliberately set up to frustrate you and break you financially so you will give up and they can have their way.

No More War – According to The Watchtower
� Lori MacGregor

“If everyone was a Jehovah’s Witness; we’d have no more war,” the young man said. You know what? He is RIGHT! This is true. We would have no more war. But have you ever thought about what we would have?If we are honest as we think about this, you would have to agree with the young man, in this present world, … if everyone was a Jehovah’s Witness.

Here is what we would have – THE MOST OPPRESSIVE DICTATORSHIP in the history of man! Think about it

There would still the extreme problems including crime, sickness and disease, mental and emotional problems, financial problems, family dysfunction, and divorce (According to statistics, Jehovah’s Witnesses still have these problems and in some cases to a greater degree than the general populace.)

But there would be no doctors, psychologists, policemen, no professional and technical people to help in these problem areas because there would be very few schools, especially schools of higher education.

We would forced to believe whatever we were told. Whether it was true or not, and even if it changed regularly.

If we questioned any decree of the government, (the governing body) we would be killed or banished to a place comparable to Siberia.

We would have absolutely no rights whatsoever as Jehovah’s Witnesses have no personal rights. If those in charge say they are guilty of anything, they are guilty. Many are not even given any kind of hearing. None are allowed legal counsel or help in any way. (The Watchtower Society goes to court all over the world to protect and establish their rights, but they deny their followers any rights whatsoever.)

We would be told exactly what type of work we could do, what we could read, (therefore, no bookstores or libraries), who we could talk to or associate with, and who we couldn’t.

We would be told how to dress and how to wear our hair. No-one would be allowed to wear a beard. Occasionally, we would even be told what married people could do within their bedrooms (but then, that could be changed).

If anyone saw another person doing anything wrong, even family members, they would be required to turn them in to the authorities!

There would be only conditional love and conditional friendships. If you questioned anything the authorities said or did, no-one, not even your relatives, could love you or be your friend anymore. In fact, they would be required to HATE you. (See Watchtowers, June 15, 1980, page 8; July 15, 1961, page 420; Oct. 15, 1952, page 599)

There would be no competitive sporting events of any type. No football, baseball, basketball, etc. (I agree – we could do without hockey).

We would not be allowed any INDEPENDENT THINKING! (Jan. 15, 1983 Watchtower page 11. So most thinking would be illegal!

There would be very little singing, as there would be very little music we could sing to, and very little to sing about. There would be no holidays, so we would have to work more.

Finally, we would be without FREEDOM of any kind. There would be no freedom of SPEECH, THOUGHT, OR CHOICE.

No freedom for life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. The Fascist and Nazi regimes would pale in comparison to a world run by the Watchtower Society

So what did Jesus mean when He said in John 8:32,36, “You shall know the TRUTH, and the TRUTH shall set you free… and when the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed”?

Well, the REAL TRUTH is that Jesus Christ does set us free!(John 14:6) Men and error place us in bondage.

Thank God that everyone in this world is not one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. It would be a terrible world of terror and oppression under the most diabolical dictatorship the world has ever seen!